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Grace

27, She/her
Grace: There have been situations where I have actually felt very conscious of my race in casual sexual relationships, especially when I was younger and I was more open-minded to people. I remember one incident where I was seeing this guy and I was in his family’s house and he was cooking something and then he turned to me and was like, ‘Fried riiii—,’ and I was like, ‘What are you even doing?’ He was making a joke about fried rice? And I was very naïve, I just kind of took it on the chin and didn’t bring it up, whereas now I would. Then I think, within that year, I was seeing this other guy and maybe I mentioned something like, ‘What’s your type usually?’ and he goes, ‘I like Filipino girls.’

Lexie (Grace’s friend and housemate): That’s really specific.

G: Yeah very specific and I think in these two instances I kind of clocked it a little bit, but now looking back I’m like, ‘Huh!?’ I don’t love those experiences. I don’t love feeling like this Asian person they’re fucking and they’re getting gratification out of it at my expense. And I’m sure they’re decent people but these are definitely very real experiences of being very conscious of my race.
Grace, a light skinned Asian woman, stands in front of a leafy wall. Pictured from her chest up and she looks directly at the camera.
Grace near her former home in Redfern.















She is one of the funniest people I know and was one of my first friends in Sydney.

Grace

27, She/her


Grace, a light skinned Asian woman, stands in front of a leafy wall. Pictured from her chest up and she looks directly at the camera.
Grace near her former home in Redfern.

Grace: There have been situations where I have actually felt very conscious of my race in casual sexual relationships, especially when I was younger and I was more open-minded to people. I remember one incident where I was seeing this guy and I was in his family’s house and he was cooking something and then he turned to me and was like, ‘Fried riiii—,’ and I was like, ‘What are you even doing?’ He was making a joke about fried rice? And I was very naïve, I just kind of took it on the chin and didn’t bring it up, whereas now I would. Then I think, within that year, I was seeing this other guy and maybe I mentioned something like, ‘What’s your type usually?’ and he goes, ‘I like Filipino girls.’

Lexie (Grace’s friend and housemate): That’s really specific.

G: Yeah very specific and I think in these two instances I kind of clocked it a little bit, but now looking back I’m like, ‘Huh!?’ I don’t love those experiences. I don’t love feeling like this Asian person they’re fucking and they’re getting gratification out of it at my expense. And I’m sure they’re decent people but these are definitely very real experiences of being very conscious of my race.


She works as a storyboard revisionist and was one of my first friends in Sydney.